Posted: 7/18/2019 10:00 AM by
Losing a loved one is not easy. As individuals, we tend to experience the feelings and emotions differently. Bereavement is a process and for those who have lost a loved one, here is some great advice from Dean Brown, Bereavement Coordinataor for High Peaks Hospice.
Bill of Rights for the Bereaved
You have the right to express your grieving in your own way. You have the right to know that grieving is slow, hard work and to move through it at your own pace.
You have the right to express your feelings about grief and to explore them.
You have the right to forgive yourself for the things you think you "should" have done or ''might" have done and realize that what you did in that moment of time was based on the information at hand and that you did the best that you could with the knowledge you had.
You have the right to be yourself and to recognize your strengths and your limitations.
You have the right to participate actively in your mourning, to remember the past with fond memories and to allow yourself to enjoy your life again.
You have the right to move forward and to speak of your pain, whether that makes people uncomfortable or not.
You have the right to go back and forth in your grieving; some days making progress and other days slipping back.
You have a right to express your emotions and to have others bear witness to your story.
You have the right to believe that you will have a whole life again!
RX for Recovery
- Eat Balanced meals. Check with your physician regarding vitamins.
- Limit intake of alcohol, caffeine, drugs and sugar. (if sensitive)
- Exercise 5 days a week. A brisk 30-minute walk will do.
- If suffering from insomnia, don't eat protein after 5pm. It blocks tryptophan. Eat carbohydrates at night. Also, alcohol, caffeine and sugar causes insomnia in some people.
- Take 10 minutes a day to do something nice for yourself.
- Some find daily meditation or prayer at a fixed time helpful (on rising or at bedtime.)
- Each night make a list of tasks for the next day. In the morning, review them, eliminating or adding. Prioritize them.
- Allow yourself permission to grieve-to cry and to be angry.
- Choose your companions carefully; those who will support your grief process and help with necessary tasks.
- Avoid making hasty major decisions (changes of residence, employment, disposition of personal effects) too soon.
High Peaks Hospice
Dean Brown, Bereavement Coordinator
454 Glen Street
Glens Falls, NY 12801
Client Service Supervisor